Hi, I’m Lola—philosopher by heart, writer by trade, and now, soon-to-be mom.
Welcome to Pre-Baby Talk, a space for all of us who feel both excited and overwhelmed by the idea of starting a family. If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake wondering how to raise a child without losing yourself, how to divide parenting fairly, or how to stay connected to your partner through the fog of exhaustion, you’re in the right place.
This blog was born out of a decade-long conversation between my husband and me. We’ve been together for ten years, and we didn’t jump into parenthood lightly.
We talked. A lot.
About everything from gender roles and body image to how we want to talk about God, death, and love with our child someday. We asked each other the hard questions—then we asked again, just to make sure.
I studied philosophy, with a focus on existentialism and identity. My thesis was in ethics—more specifically, on how we position ourselves in morality.
These questions aren’t abstract for me. They’re lived, daily. And becoming a parent only makes them more real.
So, this blog? It’s not just about what stroller to buy (though you’ll find that too). It’s about navigating the messy middle—between being who you are and becoming who you’ll need to be.
It’s about preparing emotionally and practically for this seismic shift without drowning in overwhelm or giving in to consumer chaos. It’s for the thoughtful moms and dads, the question-askers, the planners, and the feelers.
My hope is that Pre-Baby Talk helps you:
- Prepare for parenthood in a way that feels aligned with your values
- Start the important conversations with your partner (before the baby comes)
- Focus on what really matters—and gently let go of what doesn’t
- Feel less alone in the uncertainty
- Embrace this transformation with intention, curiosity, and care
Also—yes, I have a dog named Riko. He’s part of the family, too.
And in June 2025, we’ll be welcoming our baby girl into this big, complicated, beautiful world.
Thank you for being here. Truly.
If you ever want to reach out, I’d love to hear from you.
—Lola